How to cut emotional ties? ✂ Rituals to end attachment

There are bonds we cannot see, but they feel like chains⛓️. Emotional attachment is one of the most subtle and persistent wounds a human being can carry. It often disguises itself as love, but at its core, it is fear: fear of loneliness, of change, of emptiness.

Knowing when a relationship stops nurturing us and starts draining us is an act of awareness and courage. It’s not always about dramatic breakups or major conflicts; sometimes, the erosion comes quietly: conversations that no longer flow, glances that no longer hold warmth, gestures that hurt more than they heal.

True love neither binds nor demands. Love supports, accompanies, and sets free. Attachment, on the other hand, is born from lack and feeds dependency. It makes us believe that without that person we are not whole, that their absence will be an abyss we cannot cross. Attachment is not love, it is fear wrapped in routine, it is broken self-esteem seeking refuge outside itself.

When we confuse love with need, self-esteem slowly deteriorates. That’s why it’s important to pause, look inward, and ask ourselves honestly: Am I choosing to stay out of love or out of fear of being without that person? 🤔❤️

They are invisible connections formed between people through their energies, acting as channels through which emotions, thoughts, and energies are transferred, both positive and negative. They are very powerful when relationships are intense—whether in love, friendship, or even conflict. Through them, feelings of attachment, pain, and dependency are transmitted and kept alive, even when physical circumstances change.

Understanding what they are and how they work is essential to knowing how to cut emotional ties effectively and consciously, especially when we feel they are draining us or holding us back.

In energetic terms, the heart chakra 💚 and the solar plexus 💛 are the main ones involved in the formation of these ties. The heart chakra, in particular, is the center of love and emotional connection, while the solar plexus regulates personal energy and inner power. When these chakras are compromised, energetic cords can become anchored in the person and create a bond that persists even after a physical breakup. It’s important to note that this energetic connection doesn’t disappear immediately when the relationship ends and may continue to absorb our energy.

Step 1: Acknowledge the pain and the lesson 🙏

Pause and reflect. What have you done for that person that has affected your well-being? Think about the times you put aside other important people, what you gave up to please them, or the behaviors and attitudes you accepted even though you didn’t deserve them. Take a moment to be aware of everything you’ve experienced. Accepting this truth is the first step toward your liberation.

Step 2: Reclaim your power and learn to say NO ❌

It’s time to reclaim your emotional space. Learn to express what you think with respect, without fear of how others react. Saying "no" is an act of self-love and protection. This is the perfect moment to work on your inner balance and prioritize yourself. Use the Herbal Candle for Courage and Self-Esteem to eliminate the fear that prevents you from changing your attitude. Allow yourself to move forward with confidence and strength.

Step 3: Create distance, break the connection ✋

It’s time to create physical and emotional space to heal. Remove the emotions, feelings, and energy of that person from your life. To do this, work with San Alejo, the protector of distance. During the waning moon 🌗, use a Prepared Candle of San Alejo. With a sharp object, carve the name of the person you want to distance yourself from, tracing from bottom to top. Light the candle and repeat the San Alejo prayer for 7 consecutive days, visualizing how those ties that have kept you bound begin to dissolve.

Step 4: The final cut – Scissors Candle ritual ✂

Take a piece of paper and write with a pencil the tie you want to cut. Place it under the Scissors Candle. Before lighting it, visualize that person and their thoughts completely dissolving from your life. Visualize the tie being cut and your being set free. Light the candle and let it burn for 10 minutes while you maintain the visualization. Then, with gratitude, burn the paper using one of the candle wicks. This is the final closure of that stage!

Step 5: Heal forgetfulness and free the mind 🕯

Even after the cut has been made, some thoughts or energies may still linger in your mind. If thoughts of that person still persist, light a Herbal Candle of Forgetting during the next full moon 🌕. If, on the other hand, you need that person to forget about you because their presence is still interfering with your process, use the "Forget About Me" Prayer Candle for three full moons. Repeat the ritual as many times as necessary until you feel completely free.

Now you have the key to knowing how to cut emotional ties 🫰

Closing a cycle is not weakness, it is wisdom. Recognizing that something no longer nourishes our soul and taking the step toward liberation is an act of deep spiritual courage. Learning how to cut emotional ties does not mean hating, forgetting, or ignoring what was lived, but rather being grateful for the lessons learned and letting go of what no longer belongs in our present.

At Las Velas de Mariano, we want to accompany you in that rebirth. Our rituals are designed with intention, tradition, and respect for emotional processes. If you feel your moment has come, trust the candles, trust your intuition… and trust the power of cutting at the root what no longer serves you. Your soul will thank you ✨